Understanding Your Cautious Kitty

This feline is good-natured, and typically forms a close relationship with specific people or animals. Their confidence can be built up to lower their stress level, and allow them to present their best self to the world! On the other hand, when their confidence is consistently low, fear can sometimes get the best of them, and cause them to act out preemptively. This is an attempt to feel safe and defend themselves from harm.

Important points for you to keep in mind about your Cautious Kitty:

  • They are very sensitive.
  • They have low self-confidence (this can be particularly apparent in certain situations, such as when company comes over, or when they encounter another cat.)
  • They can have a hard time trusting others.
  • If they’re in fear the majority of the time, they live with a lot of persistent stress and anxiety.

Start Reading Your Cat's Body Language, Right Now.

You can't know what's going on with your cat, if you don't know what they're saying! Enroll in this free class today, and discover the simple method that I teach every single one of my private consulting clients.

Enroll now for free

Tips to Help Them Overcome Their Fear with Play
 

While we can’t change who our cats are (and, of course, we wouldn’t want to) we do have the power to make small changes in our everyday lives that will help them view their world as a safe place. Here are a few ways you can get started today:

  • Get into the habit of presenting them with at least 1 confidence-building exercise per day. The best confidence builder to start with is interactive play (you holding some kind of pole with a toy attached to it, them chasing the toy on the other end.)
  • Play in a space away from other cats, people, and animals.
  • Feed a treat or meal right after play.
  • Implement a routine and stick to it. Simplicity and consistency are key, here!
.
Black and white photo of Lauren with her cat, Nia, on her shoulders

Hey There!

Hi there loving cat parent, I’m Lauren! I ‘m a Certified Cat Behavior Counselor, who has been working with cats for about 9 years. I know, this isn’t exactly a career many people have heard of. Truth be told, it’s more of a calling, than a career. A calling that is born from such a deep curiosity and love for cats, and everything about them.

I, myself, have four incredible and unbelievably loved cats. To me, no cat is “just a cat.” And when you choose to share your life with them, they’re a member of the family.

But, let’s be honest, living with cats (like anything else!) comes with it’s challenges. You see, I didn’t just learn what I know about cats from a book, or getting certified. Over the years, I have actually experienced almost every behavior issue in the book with my own cats.

Behavior problems in cats may seem small, but I know how they can consume your life, and even your relationships.

My mission is to help dedicated cat parents, like you, realize that you don’t have to choose between your cat, and the life you want.

Black and white photo of me, with my tabby cat, Nia, on my shoulders

Your Cat Isn't Broken...

In our society, we have this distorted view of cats. We end up putting all of these stigmas and expectations on them that really don’t fit them at all. 

We create all of these misconceptions and confusion around their behavior. We compare them to our dogs, we put human qualities and motivations behind their actions that aren’t really there.

We call them solitary beings, we call them evil or psychotic, we say that they’re nocturnal and that’s why they keep us up at night, we say “it’s just a cat” to try to lessen our own feelings of guilt when we don’t know what to do.

And this is not your fault. You love your cat, and in your mind you’re trying to rationalize confusing behavior in the only way you know how to.

Trying to “fix” your cat is never going to work, because they’re not broken. Your understanding of them is. I help cat parents create a relationship with their cat that is based on understanding and respect.

You Don't Have to Choose Between Your Cat and the Life You Want.

  • Have the relationship with your cat that you desperately want, but don't know how to get
  • Stop problem behaviors in their tracks, not by "fixing your cat, but by understanding them enough to give them what they need in order to be the best cat they can be.
  • Stop beating your head against the wall, thinking your cat is just an a-hole, and there's nothing you can do.
  • Face the difficult moments with ease and understanding, rather than frustration and guilt.
Book a Call With Me

3 Ways to Get Started Today

Sign Up for Exclusive Tips from a Cat Expert

Sign up to recieve exclusive, personalized advice about your Cautious Kitty

Book a Call with Me

You love your cat, but you're so tired of the constant stress and worry surrounding your relationship. You just want the best life for them, without compromising the sanity and well-being of everyone else in the house.

Book a Free Intro Call

Free Decoding Your Cat's Body Language 101 Class

Join this class for free today, and learn the techniques that I teach every single one of my consulting clients, no matter the behavior problem.

Enroll Now for Free

What Lauren's Clients Are Saying

We knew we needed help to control some behaviors of our two cats - one scratched everything and the other hid from absolutely everyone. We were also pretty skeptical about a Cat Behaviorist...is that a thing? We met Lauren by Zoom for our initial consultation and she was great. Luckily we are in Orlando and she was able to assess them in person. Totally worth it. Her consultative and caring manner kept the pets in focus and she gave us a detailed plan to follow. I'm proud to share that the behaviors have been fixed which will ensure many happy years with the cats and two sane owners!
Bryan Long
Client's cat, Bogdan, laying on cardboard scratcher
Client's cat, Bogdan, cuddled on her lap
Client holding her cat, Bogdan,

“Lauren has been extraordinarily helpful with her tips and Behavior Plan for my cat, Bogdan. I adopted him as a 2 year old and he had a few behavioral problems. Lauren listened intently as I described my concerns and formatted a lovely plan for me and my cat. The multiple page document I was sent laid out each concern I had with an abundance of solutions. She explained signs of over-stimulation in cats, gave tips on play structure and how to keep him off my counters. I had 6 different concerns and she helped with each and every one. I also appreciated the inclusion of links to purchase different items to enrich my cats environment. I trust Lauren’s opinion and expertise and would recommend her to anyone with a cat they love.”

-Margo M. a.k.a. Bogdan’s Mom

“”I first met Lauren on a cat behavioral page when I adopted my boy. He has had the worst start in life and was terrified of life itself. [He came from a hoarder’s house in Dubai, where he was confined to a cage with two other cats.]

Lauren kindly said she was happy to give me a few helpful tips so we began our journey together. This hasn’t been the easiest for either of us, as we’re on different continents but we have made it work. Unfortunately, toffee is also very ill [and almost completely blind] but with our dedication, patience and mutual understanding, toffee has now gone from being a terrified poorly little boy, to a stronger happier cat that is growing in confidence daily.

When he arrived here, he spent his life in a cardboard box, not moving. Now he loves his bed and cat tree, no box in sight, and he talks to us. He is purring at our tickle times, and even trusts me to rub his belly.

All this has happened in just 11 weeks! He still has a long way to go, but thanks to Lauren’s advice, and our persistence, hopefully he has a long, happy, caring life ahead and NEVER has a negative experience again.

Thank you hunny for your help although I think you’re secretly in love with him too.”

xxx Toffee’s Mom, Sandy

client's cat, toffee, in cardboard box
client's cat, toffee, under cat tree
client's cat, toffee, laying on stairs

Have Another Cat? Take the Quiz Again!

Take It Again
There's only so much I can ask in a 3 minute quiz...

Feel That Another Personality Type May Be A Better Fit?

Like us, no feline fits into solely one category. I designed this short mini quiz to help you understand what’s going on with your cat, by identifying their most prominent behavior traits. If “Cautious Kitty” doesn’t feel like quite the right fit for your fur baby, please check out the other four feline personality types linked below.

Wild Child
Life of the Party
Little Cat Complex
Zen Cat

Share this:

Share the Love!